I am always asking people in Dynamo Interviews what they want to be remembered for. What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind? What do you want to give to the world to make a difference? How will your life be something worth remembering? It’s a big question. We all want to be remembered. I think that’s why we work so hard to produce something creative. We want to make something to hold that can still remain when we leave.
But maybe that’s not the most important. What can you give? What can you give to others that can’t be held? When you feel sad or unproductive or angry or selfish or important or unimportant, what can you give? You. You can give you.
Give your attention to listen. Give your voice to elevate someone else. Give your hands to lift where you stand. Give a gift of your heart to be engaged in making a life where other souls leave you better than they came to you.
Were you patient when things didn’t go your way? In the times that you found joy, did you bring others with you? Were you present in the moments that mattered most? Did you give children space to explore and be heard? Can you say you forgave someone like you needed to? Were you honest? When it was hard to say the right thing, did you? Where you willing to really see the opposite side of an issue, willing to see how it made sense to others? Did you let down your walls and share what really mattered? Did you let yourself grow with change or diminish with it? Did you remember to smile when you were all by yourself? Was your heart vulnerable enough to show others that you were human just like them, that you all were trying the best you could together?
Maybe we want to write books, create companies, build houses, type blogs, sew quilts, win trophies, excel physically, invent the next big thing…but maybe the way we treat each other is actually the biggest thing we leave behind. We all want to make a difference. We all want to be remembered. What do you want to be remembered for?
I’ve always thought this life is really about the way we treat each other, I still think that. We are either better for our actions or worse. We are either lifters or takers. We will all need to be takers sometimes, that’s the only way to let others lift, but hopefully the lifting far outweighs the taking. Give your heart. Open to others and find the places you can breathe in room to love and accept and grow. Grow up and into yourself. Find the stubborn places that are hard to move and keep on working. You don’t have to be the richest or most important person in the world to give a life to yourself that others will remember. It all starts with opening your heart. Then share it. It will be the most important thing you can give.