I love it when you live in a place long enough to have good friends. I feel like it took a good year when we moved to Portland before I could see potential growth in the friendships. Now that we’ve been here for 3 years, I’m loving my friends. There’s something important about other female connections.
I have a friend that I know I could go to with anything, I’m totally safe with her; one that is my go-to decor and fashion guru; one that will always speak her mind; one who equally shares ideas; and ones where there’s just good flow. There’s the recipe friend, the pragmatic grounded friends, and the dream big friends. Those who like to run together and push each other. Friends who love each other’s kids and look out for them. And friends that make you grow.
One of my friends is awesome at retaining all her friendships in multiple circles. She can meet someone on an airplane, get a number, and hook up with the airplane friend, spouses also coming along. And they have a fantastic time! Totally random. But I really think all this living we’re doing is about how we connect with each other.
Of course this doesn’t come without casualty. I’ve said and received my fair share of unkindness, but if we can get through practicing kindness on each other, we’re really getting somewhere! I’ll be the first to admit I’m not perfect and hate to hurt anyone.
I have friends that have done cool things, are super opinionated about lots of things, and easily admit how awful they are at different things. These things seem to make them so interesting!
That said, sometimes I think I’m boring. Do you ever feel that way?
I’m a happy person. I love connecting with other people. Having friends and hopefully being a good friend makes my day. I really give everyone the benefit of the doubt and always try to find something good in what’s happening. It drives some people crazy. I love knowing people’s names (it makes conversation way more personal) and inviting random people over to eat. (My husband loves that.) I try not to complain and if I am, then it probably means it’s past my bedtime. I like being a morning person, even though I stay up to late. I need to be better at reading more books and being on time (although I’ve seen some improvement in timeliness this past year). And I think everyone deserves a second chance and is better than they think they are. I always do things not expecting anything in return.
Boring? Maybe, maybe not. But I’ll be your friend! In the end I think it’s good that I have so many people with different strengths surrounding me. It would make life pretty boring otherwise.
Anyway, this recipe comes from a friend
(surprise!) who is also healthy conscious (I think you’re pretty awesome, Ksenia). It’s nice to have people around you thinking the same thing; a community of support is pretty nice.
Do you think you’re boring? What kind of friend do you like to be around most?
- 2 Tbsp coconut oil
- 2 garlic cloves
- 1 onion, diced
- 1 green bell pepper, diced
- 1 red bell pepper, diced
- 2 carrots, small dice
- 1 jalepeno pepper, diced (optional)
- 1 c frozen corn kernels
- 2 tsp cumin
- 1 tsp coriander
- 2 tsp chili powder
- 2 tsp sea salt, plus more to taste
- 1/2 tsp black pepper
- 2 14.5 oz can petite diced tomatoes
- 1 15 oz can kidneys beans, rinsed and drained
- 2 15 oz cans white beans rinsed and drained
- 1 can hominy
- 2 1/2 c. water
- 1/4 c dry bulgur wheat
- 1/4 c quinoa (or omit this and add 1/2 c total of bulgur wheat)
- 1/4 c minced fresh cilantro, for garnish
- Add the oil to a large pot. Sauté the vegetables and spices over medium heat for 10 minutes or until tender. Add a little water if the veggies begin sticking to the pot. Add the remaining ingredients except the cilantro and simmer over medium-low heat, covered, for 30 minutes. Season with salt and, if more spice is desired, hot sauce or cayenne pepper to taste. Serve, sprinkled with cilantro. Leftover chili freezes well.
- **Use any combination of beans you have on hand to equal 3 cans: white, kidney, black eyed peas, pinto, or black.